The wife life

I look at the mirror and see their a crying girl
sad and shattered,she is tired and lying on the floor

I laugh at her,the hundreds of li'l big things to finish,the life to live before I die....

she is dying to talk, and I watch silently
and worst,she is dying to love and to be loved
what a pity!what a pinkish feminine creature!

I look again and see there a sea...
I forgot..I loved to watch the moon when it rains over the sea....

The Mother Life

I often wonder, what is the meaning of this life!( a great philosophical question! a cliche!...still all of us ask this question on a daily basis...)

But this is a quite simple question, or to simplify rather, let me ask "What is the meaning of living a life like this?"

The hundred simple problems every day making it a single gigantic problem...

Its the loneliness, the ultimate desire to talk everything in a way u want to talk , the desire to have your partner/friend/a relative or even you mom listen to you without any prejudice and preconceptions...desire for acceptance with all your imperfections...Its this desire which make life a hell, and unbearable, though you are trying with all your courage and patience and resilience...

Sometimes I wonder how lonely would have been my life without a cute little being who happen to be my son!And then, I get the answer for that question, the meaning of life...is being the mother of a creature who is born out of love, purity and affection and not lust and desire (what an old outdated concept!)

I think i should go no further!!!

I ponder on living a sane life and the only answer comes to me is:-

"Dear Friends, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DONT EVEN THINK OF SETTLING IN LIFE WITH A FAMILY"

The moment you think of settling:-
You stop being yourself
You think of compromise, of adjustments
You forget what you are and why you are here
You think of civilized behavior
Polished attire
You swallow words, you stop reading
And ultimately you stop being sane

So be happy with the way you are, my unmarried bold and beautiful friends...
never get betrayed by social stigma
Life is short and too precious to live the way others want

Finding Him(Part II)

Valentine's Day!!! Best Day to talk about finding him!!

But, if it was as simple as that- Love at first sight etc etc....But ya, as my HR husband says "the decision takes place in the first 10 seconds of meeting"- means only destiny matters!!!...

Now here are some "pennu kanal stories"-

1. After seeing this person's pic, the bride's family invited him for meeting(means interview), she was told that the guy like modern gals, and she spends a lot of time in changing herself,but the interview failed and d family gt so much disheartened...May be you should be your worst, or you should be atleast you while meeting him for the first time. Because ultimately you are "supposed" to change after marriage.

2.(ll be added tomorrow fr sure..;)

I know, these are just some general statements, but it just happened in my case.

My only suggestion is while checking the horoscope, be double sure about match between you and your mother in law, rest every thing will work out perfect.

Am I Sane!!

A short pause, just to answer this question, "Are you sane enough to write a guideline for that??"

Ohh Yes, I am living a 100% sane life, and sometimes I feel I am too normal to be myself. Get up, prepare breakfast for the kid, feed him, get ready, go to office, come back home, take kid to park, come back, prepare tea, prepare dinner for the kid, feed him, have dinner with family, let the kid sleep, do leftover household chores, sleep....Can I be normal more than this?, I dont read newspaper, don't watch tv(except peeping some asianet serials from kitchen) and more importantly dont think too much...

No, I am not saying you should marry for this reasons, but you should marry because you have lived an adventurous life enough to get tired of it...

But its not true, I am 100% normal, still thoughts pop up unexpectedly,though rarely...in the moments when I am with myself, on the way to office, when the kid is sleeping and I am alone, I do think- Am I happy? and the answer is "Yes, I am, if happiness means the absence of sadness, then I am happy"

Step 2: Finding Him

Finding him- the ultimate step...till now it was only preparations, but now you are jumping to the well. I said "jump" because, once you do it, its not easy to come out...So think again and if still you feel so, read further...

I dont have much to say about 'finding him' in a love marriage, because that happens naturally without any outside support...but if its an arranged marriage, you will get lot of external support;

1. Parents- the ultimate support
2. matrimonial sites- of great help
3. marriage brokers, friends, relatives etc- not of much help
4. YOU- the ultimate victim

When parents do the googling, they mainly look for Religion, Caste, Family Status, Guy's Salary, Home, education and the looks. If 70% is ok, they will send the horoscope for further processing. This is a standard, tested format. Many parents aquire new tech skills to get their daughters married, like my father learned to use the internet for finding right guy. Parents who cant do this, get blames from impatient daughters. If your parents are not upto your expectations, push them, motivate them as they did when your were ready for your board exams, this is their test of life...

Now marriage sites and you- take a paper, write your expectations- your imaginations, dreams, looks, age difference etc...now just open bharat matrimony.com, if its your first experience I am sure you ll be surprised- not just one, but hundreds of them, d guy of your dreams...take one hour every day for this search, finally its your life...

Now when you write your imaginations, please dnt forget to write your dream of future life- you want to live with him only, or in a family, in India or outside etc etc...Ultimately your own horoscope as perfect as possible

See you later

Are you ready(Part II)

One of the most imp. question is "are you a marriageable material?"

"Everyone do it, why cant I" was my answer...but its not simple as that, to be tied around d neck, to be in a family, to settle, to sacrifice u need immense courage & mental preparation, so please answer this questions before taking that BIG step;

1. Are you ready to dispose off your favorite may be torn tees, jeans, earrings etc etc- (in one word your style as such) and ready to accept new style statements- may not look good to you, but look stunning in the eyes of others..specially aunts and other relatives

2. Are you ready to exchange your hobbies, be it roaming around, movies, books etc,for some other may be more exciting time pass (dont tale any double meaning- i just meant shopping, visiting relatives etc..;)

3. Ready to change your wake up, sleeping and snap timings?

4. Ready to forget the entire feminist lessons you strongly believe, and ready to be a female?

5. Ready to even think about what others want from you rather than what you want from you (d most difficult part!)

If the answer is yes, go on...